Realizing Relations

The city of dreams wakes up to scores of event happening in and around. 8:00 AM and the trains are packed, buses are crowded and cars hit the road. After entire nights blink the traffic signals start functioning. Several Men and Women drive towards office. Some of them read the business report while being seated in the rear seats of a Toyota, Mercedes, or BMW. At times blankly gaze at the passing detour. Whereas some try to set in a crowded bus smiling and chatting over cell phones with loved ones. Lending a helping hand to their spouse, trying to give them a sense of comfort is a picture ever so often. It makes one think what is it that makes one so silent or lost whilst traveling in world finest luxury or content being in a packed iron containers.

That’s when the cupid discharges his arrow and the answer comes maybe Love! Need not specifically say love, but can be mutual understanding, care for each other, being affectionate and couple of other things. It’s not just love; it takes so many things to make an affair long lasting. Many times it is observed the adolescent stating, “I am in love or I’ve committed or we are going around” How many of these college time affairs last?

Hardly a few of them may not be a single.

Some college time affairs end up in marriage, but later it’s learnt that both of them are quiet different chemicals, the relationship doesn’t works out. The vows taken, words sworn are banged. The army of differences marches over, wounding and killing the relationship they share. Expectations are shattered. Instead of living and loving each other they start existing and adjusting with a great burden inside. Things are often taken for granted; differences of opinions arise making the scenario grave. Once they could not miss facing each other and now they cant stand by each other. When things go out of control relationships tend to hit the rock further leading to divorce. Then it doesn’t matters whether they had love or arrange marriage.

Reasons! Name them and you can file one. The reasons for divorce are innumerous. In most of the cases filed for divorce are based on Infidelity, Premarital Relationship, and Failed Expectations. Once considered a taboo in India has become a common event these days. Around 40-50% marriages hit the rock with the above reasons. Divorce is also filed accusing each other of infidelity or pre martial relationship and varied other reasons. At times to get rid of the wife or husband and get along with the ex-lover divorces are filed. Need not have a grave look at divorce; it’s has a status now.

The fact cannot be challenged that divorce isn’t a painful procedure, its like parting emotionally with the companion. Very few get re married or have content expressions every day. Most of the divorced men and women prefer to stay alone rather than being in any kind of relationship.

After the traumatic episode of divorce, silence prevails in most of their lives. Working hours go long as there is no one at the dining table waiting for. Luxury might flow in but no one to spend for. Weekends those were spent in cinema galleries and malls are now dipped in tequila shot at pubs or lounge bars. Moments fly off with the smoke of cigarettes and flipping over television channels. The companion whose thought even would inject life becomes a migraine that consistently occurs.

Nights of depression are longer than an active day. Colors of life go pale and so is the divorcee’s life. This isn’t an end; there are couples of more things than divorce that people need to gulp. The fact is that they are a bit strong and hard to chew. Time has changed, lifestyle is ascending, and so are the preferences. Marriages are out and Living Relations and Open Marriage are in.

This is an ordinary state of affairs in urbane and ambitious nations. If things don’t work out, get divorced, have an open marriage or living relationship. Marriage is no longer a sacred bond but just a ritual for namesake. Moreover people are soon gulping the reality that fidelity and loyalty is not an enclosure that comes with the envelope of marriage. Convenience is fast replacing fidelity and loyalty in marriages today.

One needs to realize the significance of relationship and take care of it. A smile and sweet apologize at times can make your spouse stand by you forever. Life can become beautiful again without opening the chapters of open marriage, living relationships, or divorce.

It does matter when you think, “It doesn’t matters how hot she/he is but it does matters how warm she/he is.”